Oct 28, 2020
Definition of humble:
Having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance
Can you accomplish greatness with that mindset?
Definition of self-esteem
Confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect
Nobody else is responsible for building your self esteem
The world doesn't care about your self esteem
Despite what people post online about 'being nice'
Most of your problems come from a lack of confidence in yourself
You don't do b/c you're not confident in achieving the end result
Getting bullied - only solution is self esteem
Only hurts when you don't think highly of yourself
Ex: Magic forum cyberbully (thumb gangsters)
You can't get bullied unless you accept THEIR story of you
Your Story vs Their Story
What's the story you tell yourself in your head?
Ex: Can't do something b/c of...(excuse)
Ex: They say you have a big nose... "Uh ok. Is that your fetish?"
Average people want you to lower your self-esteem b/c it makes them feel better
Crabs in a bucket
Mayweather's father didn't tell him to not think he's great
Tiger Woods, Kobe, Jordan, Elon Musk...they told themselves a different story
They will say: "He's arrogant/cocky"
Successful people understand
Ex: Mike Tyson on Deontay Wilder saying he will beat Tyson
Tyson's response: "He has to think like that. I thought that too"
The story in your head vs Story you say out loud
Say it out loud = cocky
Keep it to yourself = humble
Confidence comes from competence
You develop self-esteem by knowing the truth (about you)
Can't tell Tiger Woods he sucks. He knows he doesn't
Don't need to say it...you need to show it
"I'm the greatest" vs "I'm going to be the greatest"
"I'm the greatest" = complacent & don't improve
"Going to be..." = always improving (allows you to stay on top)
Doesn't mean you're cocky
You're aware of what you're good at & not good at
Only real confidence can admit what they're not good at
You have to think highly of yourself to accomplish great things
Allows you to destroy obstacles
Problems, people, anything
Become delusional - "against all odds, you're going to do it"
Elon Musk - they said it can't be done, he said "I'll show"
The only people who WILL do it are the ones who believe they CAN do it
This isn't affirmations
Affirmations is when you're trying to convince yourself of something you're not
Confidence is when you know it to be true (you have reason for believing)
Ex: Ali - "I'm the greatest", part showmanship but also knew the work he put into it
Ex: Elon Musk - he understood the science behind it
They understood they can 'get there' rather than thinking 'I'm already there'
You have to have a chip on your shoulder b/c of what it does to you psychologically
Beliefs are more about what they do to you rather than whether or not they're true
What does the thought do to you?
Ex: Mike Tyson - "I'm going to kill him"
Hit with bad intentions
Believe it's possible = you try
Don't believe? = won't even start
Self esteem = built through competence
Stop accepting the story people create for you
"It's not possible"
"You're too old"
Start creating the story YOU want for YOU
Self esteem allows you to create your story
Stop being so humble. Create YOUR story